People often feel a sense of loss when they realize that sex requires work. This might sound silly, but there is a misconception that sex should be effortless. That it should be easy and organic. Or, if those things don’t come effortlessly, you just aren’t good at “it”. Many people assume that we should be good at sex, however, the reality is that if you want to be a good lover, you have to work for it!
Read MoreTake a minute, close your eyes, and think about your most memorable, mind-blowing sexual encounter. Were you trying something new outside of your comfort zone? Were you with a partner that captivated you in such a way that you put all insecurities aside? You were raw. You were brave. And you were vulnerable - and it felt amazing! Here are a few tips to help you embrace being vulnerable together with your partner and asking for what you want in the bedroom!
Read MoreMay is National Masturbation Month! It’s totally healthy and completely normal to engage in self-pleasure. It provides an opportunity for us to get to know our bodies better and our own sexual responses - not to mention tons of health + wellness benefits!
Read MoreCheating can hurt. It can be devastating to everyone involved - the partner that was cheated on, the cheater and the relationship. When many couples enter a new relationship, they do so with the mutual understanding of fidelity and respect. When that fidelity turns into infidelity, things can get tough. Lots of people assume that cheating ultimately means that a relationship is over, but that’s not always the case.
Read MoreIf you want better sex, you need to start talking about it! As we start a new year, I try to encourage my clients to explore how to make their relationships more pleasurable - in and out of the bedroom!
Instead of focusing on if you’re having ENOUGH sex, try to consider whether or not you’re experiencing enough pleasure and connection with your partners.
Read MoreHave you ever wished you had closer relationships? I’m not just talking about romantic relationships, but also friendships, family relationships, and even acquaintance-level relationships that have the potential to grow deeper.
Read MoreThe disappearance and later discovered death of Gabby Petito along with the speculation that her now missing boyfriend could have been the culprit has caused many to offer this advice: Trust your gut. If you think something’s off about a person, it probably is.
Read MoreIf you’ve ever called in sick, travelled across the country, or driven further over the speed limit than you’d like to admit in order to spend more time with your partner, then you know exactly how true this is. When you’re in love, it can feel like all the time in the world with your partner is never enough.
Read MoreFew things in the early stages of a new relationship cause more anxiety than texting. Most Millennials and Gen Z-ers are all too familiar with questions like, “When should I text them back?” “Am I overdoing it?” “Should I wait to respond because they took forever?” “How many emojis is too many?”
Read MoreYou’ve heard it all before: “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” “Beauty is only skin deep.” “Love is blind.” But you’ve also been bombarded with the opposite: romantic comedies casting near-perfect looking actors, Cinderella winning the heart of the prince while her “ugly stepsisters” pined for him fruitlessly. Advertisements featuring stereotypically attractive partners leaving Kay Jewelers hand in diamond-clad hand.
Read More“You always want what you can’t have.”
It’s a saying as old as time- one that most people can, in one way or another, relate to, especially when it comes to romance. Whether it shows up in the form of a crush on your boss, pining after someone who’s already married, or falling for a local while vacationing in a foreign country, there’s something about loving a person you know you can’t be with that feels more intoxicating than other, more realistic relationships.
Read MoreWhat makes a relationship healthy? Is it respect? Mutual support? Open communication? You may know what a strong relationship looks like, but knowing how to get there can be difficult. Sometimes, your temper flares up when you get frustrated by your partner, or life gets busy, and you find yourself being short and distant.
Read MoreRelationship researcher, John Gottman, spent four decades studying what makes relationships last. Based on 7 studies he conducted on couples who stay together vs. couples who divorce, Gottman is now able to predict with over 90% accuracy whether or not a married couple will divorce. While there are many factors that contribute to a couple’s decision to end their marriage, Gottman identifies 4 behaviors as the most common predictors of splitting up.
Read MoreTake a moment to imagine yourself having sex. How do you feel? How do you see yourself? Now, if you weren’t already, imagine having sex completely naked in a well-lit room. How do you feel now? Your answer, most likely, is a reflection of your body image- your thoughts, feelings, judgments, and beliefs about your body.
Read MoreNo matter how compatible two people are, the defining quality of romantic relationships is almost always attraction. Attraction is what initially draws two people together. It’s what sparks interest and creates sexual chemistry. Without it, two people who otherwise get along very well might as well be friends or roommates.
Read MoreLetting go of your partner after breaking up can feel excruciating. The grief of saying goodbye to dreams you had as a couple is often compounded by the sheer loss of the other person’s companionship. For many, the answer lies in these three words: “Let’s stay friends.”
Read MoreImagine you’re in the market for a new car. There are several things on your list of qualities the car must have: four doors, five-star safety features, adequate trunk space, and over 20 miles of miles per gallon of gas.
You’ll likely find a number of cars that meet this criteria, so what do you do? Do you test drive a few and ultimately pick one that meets your needs and falls within your budget? Or do you go above and beyond- test driving dozens, analyzing which rides the smoothest, which has a backup camera, which has satellite radio, a sunroof, the best speakers, built-in GPS navigation?
Read MoreIf you found out today that your partner cheated on you, what questions would you have? Would you want to know how many times? What about what the other person looked like? Would you want to know where their encounters took place or who was better in bed?
Read MoreIf you’ve been dating for a while and have yet to find success, you may feel like your relationships keep ending for the same reasons over and over again. Maybe you keep feeling like nobody you date is “good enough,” or that things tend to go great until the relationship becomes more serious, and you suddenly lose interest. If this is the case for you, an avoidant attachment style may be to blame.
Read MoreBetween 1967 and 2015, interracial marriage has increased by almost 600%. This statistic reflects more acceptance of interracial relationships now than in prior decades, but as evidenced by countless instances of systemic racism and police brutality, coming to a head with the murder of George Floyd in May of 2020, the issue of racism in America is far from gone.
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