Remember that blissful feeling at the beginning of your relationship, when you swore your partner was absolutely perfect, and there was no one in the world you’d rather spend time with? When was the last time you felt that? If you’re in a long relationship and realizing that’s been days, months, or even years since you last felt passionate about your hunny, don’t worry. You’re actually in the majority, and there’s something you can do about it.
Read MoreHow do you feel when you think about sex? Do you feel excited, confident, or eager to connect with the person you love? If so, give yourself a pat on the back. You likely enjoy sex. But what if sex brings up different feelings for you? Feelings like embarrassment, fear, disgust, or self-consciousness? You may be struggling with sexual shame. You are not alone.
When I tell my clients to begin practicing sensual intercourse instead of the same sexual intercourse they’ve always had, I am often met with looks of confusion. The words “sexual” and “sensual” are used interchangeably, potentially causing many to think, “What’s the difference?” Sexual intercourse can be great. Some might consider it one of life’s greatest pleasures- that is until they’ve discovered sensual intercourse.
Read MoreWhat happens in a relationship when you try to bridge the gap between what you want and what you have? Control issues pop up. If you’ve ever found yourself saying or thinking things like:
“You should do/think/act like this”
“I’d be happy if only you’d...”
“You would be more _______ if you loved me”
“I need you to be more like so-and-so”
then chances are you are trying to control your partner. Trying to control your partner can lead to major issues for a couple. Let’s explore why some of us attempt to assert our control and why it ultimately is not healthy in your relationship!
Read MoreHave you had this moment with your partner: Partner A is yelling at Partner B, “We gotta go! We’re gonna be late!” Partner B is thinking, “It’s a party, it’s called being fashionably late” as Partner B takes time finishing up getting ready. Partner A is fuming about the lack of urgency Partner B is displaying. An argument ensues on the way to party. Whether you are Partner A or B you’re likely getting frustrated that your partner isn’t seeing your point of view.
Read MoreTrust is quite arguably one of the most important factors in any relationship. Trust creates feelings of safety, which makes room for vulnerability and a general sense of being able to relax around the other person. Trust is the antidote to relational anxiety.
Not only does trust mean believing that your partner is loyal, it also means knowing that they have positive intentions in your relationship and that they’re looking out for your best interest.
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“I went through his phone.” “I hacked her Facebook.” “Give me your Instagram password so I know I can trust you.” “Share your location with me.” If you haven’t been on the giving or receiving end of one of these statements, I’m willing to bet that you know or have heard of someone who has.
Read MoreYou’re sitting there watching a movie when all of a sudden the people on screen fly into a passionate love scene. You watch as they go from 0 to 60 in a matter of seconds. Maybe you shift uncomfortably, maybe you watch, enamored, or maybe you think to yourself..."This doesn’t happen in my relationship anymore. Is there something wrong with me?"
These kinds of scenes are everywhere in Hollywood. It seems like out of nowhere people are going from not having a sex to BOOM, there they go! Suddenly, they are overcome with a passion and fervor that everyone hopes to have in a relationship.
So is there something wrong with you or your relationship if it’s not like that?
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