Is Faith-Based Counseling Right for You?
By Mary Claire Schibelka, LPC
When Christian clients reach out to me looking for faith-based counseling, I typically find that they are looking for a place where they can do one of three things: 1) process major life decisions with spiritual implications, such as getting married; 2) talk about day-to-day issues, such as work stress or dating, through a spiritual perspective; or 3) explore their values in the context of their beliefs, often when personal values and scripture seem to be conflicting.
Many also reach out because although they may not always want to discuss topics that are particularly spiritual, they find it easier to talk about their lives with someone who already speaks their language. For example, telling your therapist you went out with your Small Group, can be cumbersome if you have to pause and explain what a Small Group is. Especially if you say something like, “So after the service, my Small Group and I went to the worship leader’s house for fellowship.” Sometimes, it’s just easier to work with someone who has the right background knowledge.
Before taking on anyone new, I always explain my limitations. I am not a pastor. I haven’t been to theology school. I have a master’s degree in counseling, and while I can help you process what you believe, I do not have the knowledge to give advice or clarification on scripture. I have no authority to tell you what is right or wrong, nor do I have the ethical ability to.
As a Licensed Professional Counselor, my superpower is different. I can help you untangle all of the thoughts, emotions, values, behaviors, and beliefs that impact your spiritual health. I can help you understand your faith journey and its relationship with your mental health. I can help you dissect problems and find practical solutions that align with your unique values. I can offer you non-judgmental emotional support as you go through all of life’s struggles and make complicated decisions. If you’re looking for spiritual direction, I can help you find a theological professional who can offer additional support where my area of expertise ends.
Faith-based counseling sessions are safe, confidential spaces where clients can talk about anything. Some popular topics discussed in Christian counseling include:
Dating: identifying your needs, values in dating, breakups, dating apps, marriage
Sex: boundaries, building intimacy, sexual shame, sex drive, sexual orientation
Work: stress, burnout, serving, passion, purpose, success
Leisure: work-life balance, building community, social media
Trauma: shame, abuse, family of origin issues
Clients who seek faith-based counseling can talk about spirituality as much or as little as they please during sessions. There is no minimum requirement. Faith could be the center of your life or something on the back burner. Counselors will meet you where you are. If you’re interested in more information about faith-based counseling, reach out to maryclaire@elevatedlifecounseling.com. All are welcome.